Just a PHASE- it shall pass too

A litttle flash back into our childhood..i guess for the majority of us. Going to school with backpacks loaded with books and copies of CW, HW and all..with a milton water bottle on shoulders...some natraj pencils in our Superman or barbie painted pencil boxes... Going to school was the toughest task... We would worry about our homeworks, our grades, insults in class when teacher would kick you out of the class for either whispering the answer for your friend during an oral test or for making funny noises sitting at the back... Thats all what worries meant for us.... We were really happy, living every moment with a detail....we enjoyed every cricket match we played, we relished every point earned playing Road Rash or Contra or even Mario. Maybe some girlish stuff is missed out there like playing Home Home (Ghar ghar :P) or even playing marbles on street, draping mumma's Dupatta like a saree. We even enjoyed dreaming ourselves in shoes of maybe a footballer, a Pilot, an Actor, a Dancer, our class teacher or a Musician...wow daydreaming was so much fun..sometimes gave us goosebums.. That was a phase, really an enjoyable and memorable phase.

School passed...now what...college..college..college..is what is on mind.. We run about for few months giving exams..attending admission programs...and somehow manage to get enrolled... Sighh..thank God m not left behind..I also have a college to attend. College starts. Man, a hell lot of fun. There are songs out there based on college days. A new world, new set of people, new syllabus again...we take little time..adjust..find our kind of people to hang out with...start bonding...and a gang is formed. After a little while we start realizing that after college there isn't any place we can go where our parents are going to pay for our access unless u go to college again for another set of semesters. We start getting worried...job..job..job...future..future..future..is what all we think till 4th year and finally get through in sm interview and bang...we are happy again. A phase passed. 

College over...Office starts. Now this is actually THE PHASE. A daily routine starts..Do baar punch Ek baar lunch....this mantra stays the same even if you become the VP of your organisation. You start working day in and out..meeting deadlines..following orders..running without panting to meet someone called appraisals. Even though that some isn't competent enough to reward you for your marathon.

...Now Take a flashback to first paragraph... We all used to have some dreams..some materialistic..some passionate...whatever may be ...but we had some dreams which actually made us very happy when we dreamt about them. Also its true that most of us aren't in the same shoes which we saw ourselves in dreams. 

But at the same time some friend of ours or a know person is living your dream..they are actually a part of a football team, or a rally driver, training as a fighter pilot or even teaching at a school ..whatever may be.

This friend also might not be living his dream, but he is living yours. This sometimes makes us feel like..Oh Man..wow wish I could be in those shoes today. This is the irony of our present phase.. This may even cause dis-satisfaction to some of us. We start loosing interest in our work..keep complaining about our job...life becomes boring. 


But thats not how it is supposed to be. This is a phase which shall pass too. Rather we should take these circumstances positively. The more your known people do great things (things which you consider great)..the more it should inspire to rebuild your dreams..and set new targets. Keep small goals..strive...and achieve them...satisfaction will start setting in. Small goals will lead to larger ones..which could ultimately be your dream...reaching where people might tell you - "You are where I would want to be"... 

Find happiness in every small moment of life...and whenever sad just remember..Its a PHASE..it shall pass too and you will remember this day later just as a PHASE.

Dreams Planned..!!

We all have dreams and make plans..right? Right from our He-man or Barbie days till today, we have been dreaming or making some sort of plans. Though there is a hell lot of difference between the dreams we saw and plans we made at different stages of life. We would dream for cricket bats of the highest quality, a GI-JOE set or even a 4 geared cycle as a birthday gift. For girls, please don’t feel left out, I have imagined your dreams like having the best dinner-set to play or the largest collection of Barbies amongst your group or having that perfect dress some heroine wore (see u got to accept your natural behavior). Talking about today when we are in colleges, or working in an office or mite be about to cross the border out of schooling, we are still making plans without even thinking of what happened to the plans we made earlier. There is nothing weird in that, it is human nature. We actually force dream ourselves for what we desire at that moment. Yes, FORCE-DREAM is an odd pair of words which describes day dreaming. We plan what we want and picture ourselves out there and call it a dream.

For instance people in final semester of colleges, who are planning to start working. They spend time thinking about whether they will be hired or not. But in their good times, they actually picture themselves working for that reputed organization and they spell it as their dream to work in that same organization. By God’s grace if they get selected in the same organization, they call it like DREAMS FULFILLED.

People portray themselves in the same attire they would love to see themselves in, which instills a desire and spelled as a dream.

Now the question is whether planning dreams is bad or a good habit or idea or whatever.

Yes it is a good idea to do that but being practical at the same time is what is required. There is something called positive thinking. The more you think about your dreams or plans, the more you imagine yourselves in it, positivity flows in and you actually make efforts to fulfill it.

Start portraying yourself in your dream, be it about your career or your relationship or even your life as a whole. Figure out what you exactly want. Desire for something not out of the world, but well within your reach and achieving that should make you feel satisfied and happy. Dream even for very small things which will make you happy. There is a saying like – being happy, anyhow. None can be happy without a reason as long as he or she is a normal human being. We need reasons to keep us going and everyday we want more.

We pray to God daily and besides thanking him for keeping safe and all stuff we always wish for that something special which we have been waiting for long. Along with that wish we should work towards it to bask in the happiness of its achievement.

So, start dreaming, make plans for yourself, for your coming days or even years. Plan about your career, think about your relationship. Which way are they going and where do you want to see them a couple of years from now. Don’t leave everything to destiny, it will do its work. But we should have our plans ready just in case we are lucky enough to choose our own way.

You get only one life and that too is limited like a mathematical range {birth-death}. Live your present with full vigor and also plan your tomorrow with equal vigor to ensure that out there in heaven you can say that you lived your life the way you wanted to.

Signing off…. Thanks.  

Change- is inevitable but welcoming at times

‘ The good old days ’. A very common sentence repeated by many of us and usually associated with a sigh. As we grow older we move on to a higher platform of responsibility. Our goals change, our field of work changes and our environment follows the same route of change. This change is what is inevitable and we make conclusions because of the same. Spending a few years surrounded by the same people and doing the same kind of daily work becomes a routine and boring at times. We even curse our daily routine at times and get impatient for a change. But at the same time somewhere inside we know that this has become our comfort zone and we have fitted ourselves cozily into it. We follow the same routine week after week and months and years pass on following almost the same timetable. Everything was going on smoothly and we were content.

Then suddenly that happens which we want superficially but our comfort loving mind doesn’t want to accept…..CHANGE. Yes, something changed suddenly. May be our school or may be our city or even our job. It can be even a changeover from school to college or college to office. This change brought along itself many other changes like- routine change, location changed, our friends, our food and many more important and some not so important changes which somehow affect us daily.

There after starts a series of very usual sequence of emotions. Our mind and heart start debating and end up with no conclusion at times. We discuss with everyone or maybe no one about our feelings. Nights are spent thinking about how can all this be managed by me. We scold ourself, even abuse at times for not being casual about the change which was much decided. But then it has to be accommodated. So we start off to a new journey.

Initial days we have to take on roads filled with potholes and boulders. We get hurt, even fall and cry at times. We even curse the change and some even get disheartened. But then we get used to these obstacles and slowly even learn how to find an easy path and get used to things. Along with this change we also brought a bag full of added responsibilities and tasks which are to be coordinated parallel with our daily routine. This is another tedious task.

In case of a person moving from carefree college life to professional life. They have added responsibilities and even the society expects them to act professionally. They start acting to look professional and act similarly. After sometime they also get habituated to the change and behave casually and learn to manage everything.

So, after all changes happen and after we get used to a new environment, there comes a time when we would like to sit idle and think about the days spent in our previous habitat. Framing those memories and saying – ‘the good old days’, is a different experience which we can have only after we pass through a change. We hear people saying- ‘change is for good’. Do we agree or not? The answer lies neither within us nor anywhere. It is actually true after we pass that change and think about it and say- ‘thank God, all passed well’. So, the next time if anyone says the above line our reaction should probably come after experiencing  the change for atleast some years….(not actually true, and I wanted to add a smiley with P here, but blogs don’t look authentic in chat language).

The simplest possible route is to accept the change happily and just be casual about it because things settle down but take some time. The other alternative is being against the change and it purely depends upon the kind of change we face. Lead your own way to make things look like you want them to be. Finally, you will be happy only when you pass the initial stage with a will to survive.